Comments on: Doing that group thing http://theunwindingpath.com/transhypno/2007/07/19/doing-that-group-thing/ Fri, 18 May 2012 09:18:30 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.7 hourly 1 By: The Transparent Hypnotist http://theunwindingpath.com/transhypno/2007/07/19/doing-that-group-thing/comment-page-1/#comment-121 The Transparent Hypnotist Thu, 19 Jul 2007 16:47:00 +0000 http://theunwindingpath.com/transhypno/?p=92#comment-121 The group was not too big,about six in all. <br/><br/>Interestingly enough, the group I was in where I received the criticism (and thanks for putting a new slant on it) was one in which we also sat around in a circle, first coming up with one thing we liked about everyone there and one thing we did not like. What I received from that experience is that it is inappropriate in most settings, and often not helpful. It is hard to "know" everyone well enough to not just make snap judgments. <br/><br/>The whole situation was a turning point for me. What I also brought back from that time was that it is best to not judge others superficially, and positive thoughts and words go so much farther than negative ones. I believe criticism in general should be done with a bias of kindness.<br/><br/>Sorry for venting. I have been carrying this around for years, and I guess it needed to come out. The group was not too big,about six in all.

Interestingly enough, the group I was in where I received the criticism (and thanks for putting a new slant on it) was one in which we also sat around in a circle, first coming up with one thing we liked about everyone there and one thing we did not like. What I received from that experience is that it is inappropriate in most settings, and often not helpful. It is hard to “know” everyone well enough to not just make snap judgments.

The whole situation was a turning point for me. What I also brought back from that time was that it is best to not judge others superficially, and positive thoughts and words go so much farther than negative ones. I believe criticism in general should be done with a bias of kindness.

Sorry for venting. I have been carrying this around for years, and I guess it needed to come out.

]]> By: Anonymous http://theunwindingpath.com/transhypno/2007/07/19/doing-that-group-thing/comment-page-1/#comment-120 Anonymous Thu, 19 Jul 2007 16:30:00 +0000 http://theunwindingpath.com/transhypno/?p=92#comment-120 Can I be a little pragmatic here? What is "give yourself to the group" supposed to mean? To my ear it sounds suspiciously like the sort of oblique and ultimately empty "feedback" some give when they feel obligated to say something but can't come up with anything concrete. I admire you for trying, Ellie, but I strongly suspect any wisdom you find in those words will be your own, not the speaker's. <br/><br/>I can't speak intelligently to group sessions because I've never done one. Talking to groups, sure, no problem, but when it comes to actually doing hypnosis I'm like you, Ellie, in that I prefer the one on one. When I think about trying to do a group I tend to envision a small group precisely because of the scenario you experienced. <br/><br/>I like the way you handled that, by the way. How big was the group?<br/><br/>-Michael Raugh, C.H. Can I be a little pragmatic here? What is “give yourself to the group” supposed to mean? To my ear it sounds suspiciously like the sort of oblique and ultimately empty “feedback” some give when they feel obligated to say something but can’t come up with anything concrete. I admire you for trying, Ellie, but I strongly suspect any wisdom you find in those words will be your own, not the speaker’s.

I can’t speak intelligently to group sessions because I’ve never done one. Talking to groups, sure, no problem, but when it comes to actually doing hypnosis I’m like you, Ellie, in that I prefer the one on one. When I think about trying to do a group I tend to envision a small group precisely because of the scenario you experienced.

I like the way you handled that, by the way. How big was the group?

-Michael Raugh, C.H.

]]>