Hello all. Let’s hope that you are reading this. I am not at my desk nor computer, so it is up to the time cave to see that this gets posted.
I did not want to leave you without an Esoteric Saturday, so here it is - Wax Taylor’s hypnotic montage:
You know, this seems quite on the mark to some degree. Do you agree or disagree?
P.S.
Okay…time cave doesn’t quite have html down yet, so I edited this. Thanks for your patience.
Location: Milton, Washington
www.royhunter.com
1. Are you a full time hypnotist, part-time or hobbist?
After being a work-a-holic for many years, burn-out forced me to slow
down last spring. My doctor told me that I was working far too many
hours. I must limit the amount of my private sessions and
professional consulting. Almost half of my clients are other
hypnotists and hypnotherapists who know my work. However, I still
teach locally. I also travel to teach or facilitate workshops as time
permits when someone sponsors me.
My approach is multi-modality, but I’m also well known for my work
with parts therapy for helping people resolve inner conflicts. That
was the topic of my latest book published by Crown House in 2005.
I will not work with a drug addict unless it is in collaboration with
an experienced drug counselor, because of their tendency to lie. My
own tendency to trust people at their word has its downside. I’m
extremely cautious about working with an alcoholic for the same
reason. However, I’ve had a fairly good success rate with pot
smokers, provided they make a total commitment to quit.
In 1982 I suffered a back injury that was supposed to result in
permanent chronic back pain. Through self-hypnosis, I can function
normally and am comfortable 95% of the time. If I overdo it, the
other 5% of the time reminds me of the benefits of self-hypnosis the
other 95% of the time. Also, I use (and teach) self-hypnosis to manage stress.
My office is located in a medical-professional building, with two
other hypnosis offices. We also have a waiting area and a classroom
for teaching classes. You can see a picture of the outside of the building at:
http://www.royhunter.com
My days vary greatly. At home, my day must start later than it used
to. I rarely see clients before 11am. Sometimes I’m at my computer
two to five hours a day: going through email, writing articles,
revising student handouts and course materials, doing paperwork,
etc… Much of my time at the office is devoted to teaching or
professional consulting (in the art of hypnosis) even more than doing
private sessions. I do professional coaching in hypnotherapy and/or
parts therapy by phone, email, and/or in person. A
number of hypnotherapists have travelled many hundreds of miles to
receive consulting and/or hypnotherapy in my office.”
When I’m away on business, I make sure my handouts are all prepared
for those who attend my workshops. Also, I learned from experience
that I need to take personal time for myself on trips. We need to
count our blessings, and realize that life is one long series of
learning experiences. Our true worth isn’t in what we have; rather,
it is how we use what we have.
I learned hypnotherapy directly from the legendary Charles Tebbetts.
He certified me in 1983, and eventually certified me as an
instructor. Prior to his passing, he chose me to continue his work
with client-centered hypnosis, and especially the parts therapy that
he pioneered (after evolving it from the work of Paul Federn). My two
hypnosis texts, THE ART OF HYPNOSIS and THE ART OF HYPNOTHERAPY
(Kendall/Hunt Publishing), are both based on the teachings of Charles
Tebbetts, and are required reading at many hypnosis schools around the world.
Client-centered parts therapy often helps people overcome barriers
even after many other techniques have failed.
A very obese woman slumped in my chair in a way that made the chair
creak. After gathering information about her history with weight, I
discovered that over six years passed since her last attempt to
reduce. When I asked her what motivated her to deal with it now, she
said: “Excuse me…I’m here to quit smoking!” Although she accepted
my apology, I’m still unable to remember whether she ever returned
for a second session. I share this learning experience with all my
hypnotherapy students so they don’t have to re-invent the wheel.
Here is my advice to clients: Ask your prospective hypnotist what
he/she will do if you have “subconscious blocks” (your subconscious
fails to respond to the suggestions to reach your goal). A competent
professional skilled in the art of hypnosis will be trained to use
techniques that will enable your subconscious to uncover and release
the cause(s) of subconscious blocks.
Here is my advice to hypnotists: Fit the technique to the client
rather than vice versa. This requires width and depth of training. If
you are not yet trained in hypnotic regression or parts therapy,
invest whatever is necessary in time or money to find competent
training in both of those techniques! You will do both yourself and
your clients a favor by doing so. Although I offer training materials
on my website, I suggest hands-on training when available.
If you or your organization would like to sponsor training in your
area, feel free to contact me.
As I sit warming up my poor, cold hands on the coffee cup, I have debated long and hard about posting anything about a “news” item that pinged into my email last night. It was infused with so much grumbling, I thought at first it would not be worth it, but thanks to Tom Nicoli and Debbie Lane, I am giving it a go. Please note that this is more of a hurrah! for these two.
Here the gist:
Apparently, the county commissions for Hernando County, Florida, at their December 18 meeting, made a proclamation proclaiming World Hypnotism Day in Hernando County. For many of the readers of this blog, this may not be news. For everyone else, World Hypnotism Day is a time when many of us hypnotist do various things within the community to raise awareness for hypnosis and educate people about its good applications. It is in early January.
So, here are the nice commissioners of Hernando County, who gave the day a thumbs up. It seems like a fairly benign thing all in all - but apparently not to one resident of the county. On Hernando Today, he wrote his woes and issues. Sure sounds like someone had a really bad day, as well as being taken in by media portrayals of evil hypnosis. He moans about hypnosis and the county commissioners being under hypnosis for a little while and then complains about the commissioners’ meeting schedule. I cannot quite tell if he is more upset with the idea of hypnosis or the long break between commissioner meetings (they break for about a month). I suspect it is the latter. Perhaps he believes all the county employees have a month off? Somehow I doubt that, but if they do actually get a month off with paid leave, I may well be in the wrong profession. LOL. Then he mentions something about Sunday being a time for family-activities (church-going and the upcoming holidays). What do Sunday’s have to do with anything? World Hypnotism Day is on a Friday, and I believe those who celebrate Christmas are doing so on a Tuesday?
But this is exactly why we need World Hypnotism Day. I applaud this man for making the need for the day so evident!
And I applaud both Tom Nicoli and Debbie Webber who responded with comments that were well written and informative in defense of both World hypnotism Day and hypnosis in general. And they were both incredibly kind. Kudos, you two!
Source:
Hernando Today
Good morning again. Finally got the toast setting just right, so no burned toast today. As it is another day that is off to a flying start, I fear, I really cannot speak much about scholastic hypnosis. But maybe a little latter today I will continue sloughing through forms of hypnosis.
For now, thought I would just mention another cool blogging tool I have found to help with visitation. It is called entrecard.com. You will notice it on the lower right column of this blog. What is it is an an Internet calling card, much like the calling cards of the Victorian period. When you visit a site that has one, you click “drop yours here” and it tells the owner of the site that you visited them. Then they can visit your site. Hence social networking taken to a new level. The more you “call” on others, the more advertising opps., meaning that your calling card will appear on someone else’s page.
This is what it looks like:
Please drop yours and I will visit you in return. Also, if you would like to leave your entrecard information in the comment section here, you are welcome to do so. Others may visit you.
Brunt toast, lost packages, the sand in the hour glass running out…
So - good morning. And onto our discussion of forms of hypnosis.
Are you hip? Or are you old school, old school as in a hypnotist who only practices authoritarian hypnosis or are you a hypnotist who keeps the style in their back pocket when needed? Are you a client who wants to learn and really work on issues or do you just want to be told what to do and do it?
What is old school hypnosis? That is the same as asking what is the authoritarian style? Well, in talking about traditional hypnosis, one may think of the hypnotist stereotype, but as we discussed earlier, traditional hypnosis is just a form of hypnosis that is all about preconceived suggestions that are thought up before the session and used during the hypnotic period. But now, we must relook at the stereotype hypnotist to talk about authoritarian style.
The Authoritarian Hypnotist
Imagine the hypnotist there before you, commanding you to watch the swinging pocket watch go back and forth and forth and back. Your eyes move back and forth and forth and back and finally the monotony of the monotone voice begins to lulls you into another state of consciousness. Then forcefully you are directed to “sleep.” It is at this point you are commanded directly to make changes.
Authoritarian Hypnosis - The Premise
Authoritarian hypnosis is done in a very domineering way, where it seems as though the hypnotist is in control of the experience. But this is not true. The client is always in charge of the their own experience, yes, even in authoritarian hypnosis. The thing is that the client chooses to allow themselves to be told what to do. And here is the crux - this form of hypnosis has a much lower rate of success in general because how many of you out there really want to be told what to do? I take that back, there may be a few of you who would prefer to go that route. In those cases, having a hypnotist who takes an authoritarian road may be the way to go. And I have definetly worked with a few of these types.
The Patter
Literally, the patter would go something like, “Now I want you to take a deep breath in and let it out,” and to continue using terminology in a forceful way. But as Henry Bolduc believes, the idea of using the words “I want you to” create a hesitancy in a lot of people. Why would you want to do what the hypnotist wants you to do? You want to do what you want to do. Does this make sense?
For The Hypnotist
To test a person to see if they will respond to this type of style, it is doing just that, seeing how they respond. When doing pre-testing, try out different methods and get a feel for how they react. You can try to be authoritative and if this is received positively, then you know this might be the way to go for a particular client. When testing, tell them what to do giving little opportunity for them to think for themselves. Do they resist this? Do they respond by giving you good results? If they do the latter, test again to be sure. Three positive test are a really good indicator.
If they do not respond to this or maybe this is just not your forte, that leads us to other concepts like resistant (sorry, but it is still in the vocabulary and should be understood as to why it is not a good term) or permissive. But they are for another day.
It is finally ready, a bit spur of the moment, but an act of kindness none the less. When considering doing an act of kindness, it seems like big things come to mind - helping others in need, volunteering, and so on. But I have always been an advocate of the everyday human, you know the one, perhaps similar to yourself, who takes care of their own needs and such. Well, this type of human also should have kindness granted (absolutely, do I hear an amen?). That is my focus.
I decided to do something close to the heart of the blog, and therefore have created a a short guided meditation (mp3) for anyone who wants to rediscover kindness. This download (free of course) is 14 minutes long and features no subliminal messages. It is not straight out hypnosis, but close.
Basically it is a relaxation audio that guides the listener through visualizations to inspire and remember kindnesses granted and given.
Please enjoy!
or visit the download page at archive.org.
I am just warming up here. Literally.
Currently I am working on my Bloggers Unite Kindness project, so I am still not ready to disclose it. Trust me, it will be worth coming back. Call it my early Welcome Winter gift to you.
Thank you to all of you who actually participated in this week’s poll. You can see the results on the Poll Results posting here. Hope you will participate in this weeks!
With that said, kindness is the topic of the day (yes, we will return to our discuss on forms of hypnosis - specifically authoritarian hypnosis). Yesterday the question I gave you to ponder for the week was: Is there such a thing as a true act of kindness, in that the act does not benefit the person doing it, or is this not a factor?
Guess I shall go ahead and answer this (remember you are invited to do the same). I think acts of kindness do benefit both the receiver of the kindness and the giver. A small act of kindness can change another’s outlook for the better so quickly. As for the giver, it can also change that person’s outlook as well. If the kindness is well received there can be wonderful feelings related to just knowing you have done something completely pleasant for someone else. It can make you feel fabulous about yourself. And even if the kindness goes unnoticed, at least there is something in knowing that you tried to add a little pleasantness to the world, rather than something a little negative. And yes, I think it should be a factor that the giver gets something good out of the act as well. It is like being rewarded for being positive, thus reinforcing the good behavior.
So, it is Sunday and it is the day before Bloggers Unite Day’s Acts of Kindness. And yes, as a hypnotist that has bought into the blogging community, I can hardly let this go by without participating. Plus, kindness has been a key stone to my practice and probable success as a hypnotist, so this is pretty important. It only takes a few of us to create the momentum of change, a butterfly effect that may be felt well out into the world. I tend to believe it should not just be one day that we do acts of kindness, but an everyday occurrence, but hey, it is great to make it a center piece of the day.
Basically, I am still mulling over my own participation, so I am sure you will read about it tomorrow (yep, ya gotta come back). But, if you are planning to participate or want know more, click here for the press release. And of course, you are welcome to post here if you are participating.
But, this leads me to the Sunday Question:
Is there such a thing as a true act of kindness, in that the act does not benefit the person doing it, or is this not a factor?
Perhaps it is a hot chocolate sort of morning. Ever since getting the new mixer, my taste buds are going a bit insane, so when I saw a review for the Dessert Studio at Chocolate Michel Cluizel in New York, I had to talk about it on an Esoteric Saturday.
Now a lot of the men who read this site might be rolling their eyes - woman and chocolate, but I would dare say this is so much more than your variety suburbanite chocolate. How sad, I am salivating and my passion has been inflamed.
Okay, it maybe more the review than the place(though I some how doubt it), but Ryan Sutton from Bloomberg.com wrote this most tantalizing review, and related his experience with a chocolate and spirits tasting to hypnosis. It is brilliant. And I figure, if I can relate to it, those of you reading this would as well.
Yes, I am ready to buy chocolate. And for those of you out there who are tsk-tsking me for daring to talk about this chocolate and spirits urge of mine in relation to a hypnosis blog, I might be tempted to say that I think it is important to stress that we are all human. Moderation is good. But pleasure is also important. Perhaps it is earthly, but here we are…on earth…and denial gets you no where.
So, now if you are ready, off you go to the wild world of chocolate hypnosis.
Location: Pompton Lakes, NJ
Cyberspace Locations:
www.lauralefelarbarch.com (under construction) www.hypnosisbylaura.com
1. Are you a full time hypnotist, part-time or hobbyist?
I am a full-time hypnotist and Marriage and Family Therapist located in Pompton Lakes, New Jersey.
2. Do you specialize in any type of hypnosis?
I specialize in treating adult and childhood anxiety disorders. I also specialize in presurgical hypnosis for women who are scheduled for cesarean sections. I developed a unique CD for this, as well as a hugely successful CD for women who have concerns about breastfeeding their child. Another specialty (which dovetails nicely with the anxiety work) is with children with various types of sleep disorders. I enjoy dreamwork, too!
3. Is there any type of hypnosis you do not do? Why?
I’m very careful about hypnotizing someone who wants to recover childhood memories that might include trauma. And although I find hypnosis works GREAT for smoking cessation, I personally haven’t had success working with drug and alcohol addictions.
4. Do you use self-hypnosis regularly in your life? If so, how?
I use self-hypnosis regularly in my life to help me relax at night or go back to sleep if one of my four children wakes me. I also use a product I developed for mindful running so that I can get a moving meditation and my exercise in the same 30 minute time span!
5. Describe your hypnosis office or work setting.
I rent space in a beautiful Victorian home that has been converted to an office building. It’s quite lovely. Before that I rented space on a major highway. I also had a space in my home for a short period of time until my four year old opened my office door once!
I have never found an “ideal” place for an office: often there is noise from cars outside on the street, church bells, someone walking around upstairs, or a door slamming nearby.
I just make sure I incorporate the suggestion that “with every sound you hear, deeper and deeper into relaxation.”
6. Describe a typical day in your life.
I wake at 6, take my kids to school by 9, see clients on the hour (both hypnotherapy and psychotherapy) until 3 p.m. when I pick up my kids again. Two nights a week, after I feed everyone dinner, I return to work from 6:45 to 9:30/10
7. Where did you get your training in hypnosis and are you certified?
I am a certified hypnotist trained locally by an NGH-approved trainer.
8. Most fabulous hypnosis technique you use?
I love it when I can make a suggestion that really wows the client… and it’s different for everyone. Lately, when kids giggle during the induction, I incorporate the suggestion that laughter is just the body’s way of relaxing. It’s amazing how well this works!
9. Worse moment ever in a hypnosis setting that ended up being a valuable learning experience.
I think my worst moment ever in hypnosis was trying to hypnotize my father so that he could stop a bad habit. Lesson learned? Think twice before agreeing to hypnotize a skeptical family member!
10. Any words of advice to potential clients or other hypnotist?
For potential hypnosis clients: hypnosis is an amazing tool, but don’t believe in the magic of One-Session-Hypnosis. Sure, sometimes one session is all you need (i.e. smoking cessation), but if you’re new to hypnosis, a few sessions will help you become comfortable with the hypnotist and the trance-like state, and ensure success.
Laura added a few more questions and answers:
Funniest moment in hypnosis:
Once I had a client come for weight loss hypnosis (she believed in the one-session-cure). She talked a mile a minute until I put her into trance, and upon returning to the room, she bounced right up and resumed talking as if she never stopped. Since this isn’t typical of the client emerging from trance, I thought for sure that she wasn’t hypnotized and wouldn’t lose an ounce. She went on to lose 15 pounds and refer me five weight loss clients!
Most unique hypnosis request:
An actor come for hypnosis so that he would perform more convincingly in his act! It worked beautifully!
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